Here's the gist of what she was saying:
When you're faced with an alternate path or opportunity and you're perplexed about whether to take a new course or stay where you are, just ask yourself this question: "What's the worst that can happen if I do" and "what's the worst that can happen if I don't".
Although this may seem like sound advice, let me explain why I completely disagree...
Turning every experience into a negative is not the best way to approach life and potential opportunities.
By asking "what's the worst that can happen?" on both sides of the equation, we're turning both sides into a negative with the intention to choose the better negative. Why turn every opportunity into a negative? How can that ever be enjoyable? Wouldn't this cause you to expect the worst of both sides?
What if we truly understood growth and failure and embraced it as a bare necessity for success? What if failure was only feedback? What if every time we try something and it doesn't go the way we imagined it, we think to ourselves "Well... that didn't go the way I planned it but here's what I learned". Then take that single lesson and bring it into your next attempt.
If you've gained one single insight from the experience that you didn't have prior to that experience, you've gain a treasure that can never be taken from you.
If we repeat this process enough, we will have it mastered and reach our desired outcome or better over time!
This is actually how I approach books as well. If I read an entire book and get even one principle I can apply in my life, it was worth the time and effort.
When we understand that failure is simply a method of correcting our course until we've arrived, we can be better prepared to face it with confidence and power.
Failure is not a bad thing at all! It's actually a good thing! It's a perfect system of correction that will lead us right into our desired outcome and in the process, mold us into more powerful and able beings.
This perfect system of correction has been defiled by media and the systems of government. We have been taught from a very young age that failure is bad and must be avoided. In my experience, failure has been my best ultimate teacher and as I've made a conscious decision to embrace it as the perfect system that it is, I've been able to accomplish things I never thought possible.
With this mentality, I've literally gone from a high school dropout gang member, living in the projects with a single mom on welfare, to living my childhood dream!
With this new mentality, there is nothing that can hold you back!
So next time you're faced with an opportunity, don't ask yourself "what's the worst that can happen?". Instead ask: "What would the learning experience be like and how will it benefit me?"